Something we remember, not something we earn..
For many of us, self-worth becomes quietly tangled up with achievement.
We learn, often without realising it, to measure our value by what we do, how much we accomplish, or how well we perform in the eyes of others. We praise ourselves when we’re productive, disciplined, or successful (and then question ourselves when we slow down, struggle, or fall short of our own expectations.)
Over time, worth starts to feel conditional. Something to be earned, proven, or justified.
But self-worth was never meant to work like that.
At its core, self-worth isn’t a reward for effort or achievement. It’s an inherent part of who we are. Something we carry with us long before we tick off goals, build careers, or reach milestones. Somewhere along the way, many of us simply forget that.
When we believe our worth depends on output, life becomes exhausting. Rest feels undeserved. Boundaries feel selfish. And comparison becomes almost impossible to avoid. We constantly assess whether we’re doing enough, being enough, or keeping up ~ often at the expense of our wellbeing.
This belief shows up subtly in everyday life. We push ourselves to keep going when we’re tired. We apologise for needing space. We hesitate to speak up until we feel more qualified, more confident, more certain. And when things don’t go to plan, we turn inward with criticism rather than compassion.
Remembering our worth is not about ego or entitlement. It’s about grounding. About recognising that our value isn’t diminished by rest, uncertainty, or imperfection. When we remember this, the way we move through the world begins to soften.
Self-worth rooted in remembering, rather than earning, changes how we approach growth. Goals become expressions of curiosity and purpose rather than attempts to prove ourselves. Progress feels supportive rather than punishing. We begin to make choices that honour our energy, not just our ambition.
This shift can be especially powerful in business or career. When our sense of worth is secure, rejection feels less personal. For people like myself who have chosen network marketing as their business model, that is even more important to hold onto. With a secure sense of self worth, visibility also feels less threatening. Success becomes something we can enjoy rather than something we feel pressured to maintain at all costs.
It also changes how we care for ourselves. We start to see wellbeing not as a luxury or an afterthought, but as a natural extension of self-respect. We listen more closely to our bodies. We allow ourselves to rest without guilt. We choose environments, relationships, and routines that feel nourishing rather than depleting.
Remembering self-worth doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a practice. One we return to again and again, especially in moments of doubt or comparison. Sometimes it begins with something as simple as noticing the way we speak to ourselves. Or pausing before saying yes when we’re already stretched. Or choosing kindness over criticism when things feel messy.
As we move through this month, it may help to ask a gentler question: What would change if I stopped trying to earn my worth and started living as though it was already mine?
The answer doesn’t need to be dramatic. Often, it’s found in small, compassionate shifts, the kind that slowly rebuild trust within ourselves and create a steadier foundation for growth.
Self-worth isn’t something we achieve at the end of the journey.
It’s something we remember along the way, and then allow to guide how we live, work, and care for ourselves.
So this February, join me on a journey of reconnecting with your self worth. Become more aware of how you talk to yourself and replace those negative thoughts with a more positive kind of self talk. Learn to talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend and notice the difference that it makes to how you feel and how you act this month :)